John M. Gottman talks about turning to our spouses.  Thinking of them and having them apart of decisions.  A very simple way is for husbands to put the toilet seat down when they are done.  It literally takes a millisecond for either partner to do, yet it can cause so much strife in a marriage.  This made me think about putting the toilet paper on the roll.  It’s something my husband NEVER did.  I would get annoyed and frustrated, but after years of being frustrated, I realized I never told him about my frustrations.  Once I told him, he now tries very hard to replace the toilet paper and doesn’t even give me a hard time when I don’t do it. 

These are prime examples for easy ways for us to turn to our spouses.  How do you unwind after a long day at work?  The best way would be turn to your spouse.  Talk with them, tell them about your frustrations and happiness.

Pride is a reason we would not turn to our spouses.  There is no room for pride in a successful marriage.  President Benson gave a wonderful talk on pride, entitled, “Beware of Pride.” 
In there he said, “Another face of pride is contention.  Arguments , fights, unrighteous dominion, generation gaps, divorces, spouse abuse, riots and disturbances all fall into this category of pride.”  

I notice in mine and my husband’s relationship most of our fights start with pride.  Weather one of us can’t listen to constructive criticism or we think our way is the only way.  If we can realize in the moment we are being prideful, we will be able to solve our issues before they even begin!

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